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References

LeCroy, Craig W., Carrol, Pam, & Nelson-Becker, Holly. (1989). An Experimental Evaluation Of The Caring Days Technique For Marital Enrichment. Family Relations, 38, 1, pp. 15-18.

Stuart, Richard B. (1980). Helping couples change: A social learning approach to marital therapy. New York: Guilford Press.

Stuart, R. B. (2004). Helping couples change: A social learning approach to marital therapy. Paperback edition. New York: Guilford Press.

 

Other caring ideas to suggest:

"invite me out on a date"

"suggest we do something together that you think we’d both like"

"tell me something you appreciate that I did for you"

Based on Research by Richard Stuart, Ph.D.. Psychology Science Minute written by Juanita N. Baker, Ph.D.

Psychology Science Minute brought to you by the School of Psychology at �鶹��ýӳ��, I’m Dr. Sarah Arnett.

Has your marriage fallen into a routine, and lost that spark from when you first met?   How to bring the love and caring back?

Based on the principle that people tend to respond positively to those who act positively towards them, psychologist Richard Stuart devised a technique called “The Caring Days” to encourage this process of change in couples experiencing marital distress. First, partners each make a list of behaviors that if their partner did for them would make them feel cared for (small, specific, positive acts done daily, not about a recent conflict).  Both agree to 18 items, such as “take me out on a date,” “encourage my ambitions,” or “give me a compliment.” Stuart then asked them to choose 5 behaviors from the list daily for two weeks and do them whether or not their partner did any. Performing these caring behaviors, even if they do not feel loving in the beginning, will gradually have a positive effect on the relationship. Charting kind acts serves as a reminder.

Craig LeCroy and colleagues verified the effectiveness of Caring Days to enhance relationship satisfaction with a controlled experiment using average married folks. Those using Caring Days showed more positive changes compared with the control group.

So when things are distant at home take the time to reconnect by having Caring Days!  Try it!

 

That’s your �鶹��ýӳ�� Psychology Science Minute. I’m Dr. Sarah Arnett.